|—||Joe Strummer (via uppercased)|
There are four main definitions of the word “queer” as it pertains to the LGBTQ+ community (as I understand it).
- queer used as a synonym for “LGBTQ+”—so someone who falls under the alphabet-soup could use “queer” for themselves; some people also use “queer” to refer to the community as a whole but there are LGBTQ+ people who dislike the term “queer” because it
A) is a prominent slur (see point #2)
B) removes the identification by a specific word by grouping people of multiple sexualities under one heading (viewed as erasure by some)
- queer used by straight & cis people as a slur—this has been in use for quite some time and there are disagreements in the community as to who can reclaim it and how far the reclamation should go (are we “queer” on an individual basis or are we the “queer” community?)
- queer used as a separate sexuality label—tends to mean “attracted to more than one gender” and is often used to describe a more ambiguous sexuality (for instance, my partner IDs as queer and it’s because he’s attracted to all genders, but not in equal amounts and not all in the same ways—he feels “not straight” rather than “bi” or “pan” so he feels queer better describes his sexuality); some people use queer to distance themselves from pansexuality and bisexuality because of negative associations and stigmas
- queer used as a part of an umbrella identity for “non-monosexual” sexualities (attraction to more than one gender)—some people ID themselves as bi, pan AND queer, or bi and queer, or pan and queer, etc; sometimes “queer” in this context refers to the definition in point #1 (in reference to oneself being “LGBTQ+”) and sometimes it refers to the definition in point #3, since not all people view bi/pan/queer as separate identities, and some view them as many facets of the same sexuality
So, in the context of the discussion about Tom Daley’s sexuality (which I think this question is about?) I think that definition #3 is most coming into play. There are people who don’t want him to be labeled as “bi” because they feel its unfair since he could possibly ID as “pan” or “queer.”
in relation to point 2 and the reclamation aspect, I believe we as members of the LGBTQ+ community as a whole be allowed to reclaim queer as much as individual people or groups can (which means that its not exclusively used by any one particular group but the community as a whole)
I could be shot for these comments by the way but i’m entitled to my beliefs. these are just my views. feel free to have a frank, open and polite dialogue with me via my ask if you disagree…
Many people, however, don’t want to reclaim “queer” on a community-wide basis. For many people, it is still a slur and they do not want it used on them in any way shape or form.
It’s like, women can reclaim the word “bitch” for themselves if they want, but I don’t want to see women referring to the whole group of women as “bitches.” I don’t WANT to be called a “bitch” even if it’s a term being applied to the whole gender.
So many people feel it’s inappropriate to reclaim “queer” and then turn and use it on the whole community of LGBTQ+ people, and many people don’t WANT to be called “queer” at all, even by other LGBTQ+ people.
i have a ton of cute girly things i no longer want, and i’d love for them to find some happy homes with some girls who need them!
everything is in good condition, and some items are brand new. clothes are all of varying sizes, which i will specify under…
Thank you mystery stranger for having the courage to deface these LGBTQIA posters around my friend’s school because she was too shy to do it but is now immensely grateful for the change
"This is Coy Mathis, a transgender 6 year old living in Colorado. It just so happens that my brother is in her class at Eagleside Elementary School in Fountain, Colorado. When I asked my brother how he felt about Coy he said, “She’s got really cool hair and we play on the slides at recess.” I asked what he thought about Coy’s decision to be a girl and he said, “She is a girl. She just got the wrong body on accident.” How is a 6 year old more understanding and accepting of her than many of the adults at Eagleside Elementary?"
-Courtney (via Have A Gay Day)
It drives me up the wall when adults discriminate against LGBTQIAP+ children, ESPECIALLY trans and non-binary children, and excuse it with “well my child would be confused.”
No, children are still learning about the world every day. They can learn about ALL genders and gender expressions and experiences so easily because they have much less transphobia to unlearn first.
Children can get it. Children can understand. And Adults need to stop using children to mask their own ignorance.
I want eyebrow powers like that